How to Write the Opposite Gender

How to Write the Opposite Gender
June 7, 2016 No Comments » For Authors, Writing Advice J.K. Allen

It can be daunting for us writers to write a POV from the opposite gender. After all, aren’t we from different planets? So how can we traverse the gap between male and female? Let’s take a look.

  • quotescover-JPG-34Your characters are human first. We’ve all experienced joy, sadness, anger, and loss. In the end, we share the human experience so you as a writer should focus on that first, how we are all human.
  • Avoid stereotypes. Not all guys are buff, silent, brooding fighters. Just like not all women love makeup, are bad at math, or are chick-flick loving damsels in distress. Your characters may embrace aspects of these, but they should be more fleshed out. You don’t want boring, cliché, two-dimensional characters. Move beyond the stereotype.
  • Think personality before gender. Base your character’s actions on their personality type rather than their gender. Are they strong and domineering or introverted and shy? Are they optimistic? Are they caustic? Are they logical? Their personality will dictate what they do and say so know your characters well.
  • Write well-rounded characters. All characters must have two things, a goal and a flaw. These motivate and shape your characters and make your story. Also, round your characters out. What are they afraid of? What is their past like? What do they love? What do they hate? Flesh out the details of your characters.

Focusing on these instead of gender can help you as you navigate your character and their POV. Personality and background go a long way into characterization. Know your character and you can write any gender.

Do you enjoy writing from the opposite gender’s POV? Comment below and share your tips for writing the other gender. And, as always, happy writing!

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J.K. Allen Julia Allen received her BA in Creative Writing and English from Michigan State University. She did her senior thesis in poetry under the tutelage of Diane Wakoski, but has been focused primarily on fiction as of late. Common writing themes that can be found in her work address identity and the type of strength that can be found in ordinary people. Julia is currently working on a Young Adult fantasy novel and can be found at local cafes in her hometown when writing, and painting, drawing, or reading when not.

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