How to Write the Opposite Gender
It can be daunting for us writers to write a POV from the opposite gender. After all, aren’t we from different planets? So how can we traverse the gap between male and female? Let’s take a look.
- Your characters are human first. We’ve all experienced joy, sadness, anger, and loss. In the end, we share the human experience so you as a writer should focus on that first, how we are all human.
- Avoid stereotypes. Not all guys are buff, silent, brooding fighters. Just like not all women love makeup, are bad at math, or are chick-flick loving damsels in distress. Your characters may embrace aspects of these, but they should be more fleshed out. You don’t want boring, cliché, two-dimensional characters. Move beyond the stereotype.
- Think personality before gender. Base your character’s actions on their personality type rather than their gender. Are they strong and domineering or introverted and shy? Are they optimistic? Are they caustic? Are they logical? Their personality will dictate what they do and say so know your characters well.
- Write well-rounded characters. All characters must have two things, a goal and a flaw. These motivate and shape your characters and make your story. Also, round your characters out. What are they afraid of? What is their past like? What do they love? What do they hate? Flesh out the details of your characters.
Focusing on these instead of gender can help you as you navigate your character and their POV. Personality and background go a long way into characterization. Know your character and you can write any gender.
Do you enjoy writing from the opposite gender’s POV? Comment below and share your tips for writing the other gender. And, as always, happy writing!
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